Ashley Cobb

 I am a sex writer, that brings the conversation of women's pleasure to the forefront. I share my wisdom and opinions about all things sex through my writing. 

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Women's Health •

'Sylvie's Love' Is A Steamy 1950's Period Piece On Amazon Prime Video

For a sexy film to leave a lasting impression long after the credits roll, it’s crucial to strike an, ahem, satisfying balance between seduction and entertainment. (After all, you’re there for the plot as much as the scenes that get you hot!)

Movies featuring a hefty dose of on-screen eroticism and sexuality have been a staple of mainstream cinema for decades, but now, you don't need to watch any blush-inducing scenes sandwiched between strangers in a crowded movie theater. Amazon Prime has you
Essence •

Let Yung Miami Enjoy Her Golden Showers In Peace

Despite it only being a few weeks into 2023, the trending topic “Pee Diddy” let me know that this won’t be the year we accept sexually liberated Black women as members of society. On a recent episode of her show Caresha Please with guest, rapper Trina, “Yung Miami,” aka Caresha Brownlee, revealed that she enjoys having her partners urinate on her. “Golden showers,” also known as “watersports,” involve urination as part of a kink. A golden shower is when someone urinates directly onto another per
Essence •

8 Couples Share Their Favorite Holiday Traditions

With the hustle and bustle of the season, it can be hard to enjoy the holidays. There’s so much potential to get lost in the true meaning of the holidays—spending time together. No other season has so many beautiful traditions, so it’s essential to celebrate with your community. Whether married or in a long-term relationship, sharing traditions makes the season even more special!

We’ve asked busy couples like you to share some of the traditions that have helped them stay connected and spend qua
Wondermind •

QQ: Are Dating Apps Destroying My Mental Health?

Once upon a time, going on a date with a stranger you met online was a wild idea. (If you’re seasoned like me, your first attempt at online dating probably involved an AOL chat room.) But times and the dating game have changed: There are dating apps that cater to every niche personality trait (Farmer’s Only? Veggly? OK!), helping people find love or casual hookups faster and easier than ever. At least, that’s what they’re supposed to do.

As a sex and relationships writer who has heard (and expe
Essence •

Someone Please Tell Joe Budden That Condom 'Stealthing' Is No Laughing Matter

Recently, Joe Budden, the 42-year-old rapper-turned-podcaster, admitted on a recent episode of The Joe Budden Podcast, which has since been taken down, to have faked using a condom during sex. “Even I done walked in the corner and faked like I was putting a condom on before,” Joe Budden said with a laugh. “That sh– be working. They’re none the wiser!” he said in an audio clip that was originally shared by The ShadeRoom, adding, “Yes, I did that.”

Upon hearing the audio, I was in disbelief and d
Essence •

What ‘A Different World’ Taught Me About Love And Sex

Thirty-five years ago we fell in love with Whitley, Dwayne, Freddie, Kim, and Ron on the iconic show, A Different World. I was only two at the time of the show’s debut in 1987 and did not become an avid viewer until its syndication during the late 90s and early 00s. However, it had a profound impact on my life.

Because of A Different World, a sitcom about a fictional historically Black college, I chose to attend Elizabeth City State University, a real HBCU in North Carolina. The series provided
Essence •

Your Sexual Pleasure Is Your Responsibility, Not Your Partner's

It’s sexual health awareness month and as a sex expert, it’s my responsibility to help women, particularly Black women, realize the importance of prioritizing their sexual health. This can be a difficult feat because we as Black women have been conditioned to put the needs of others before our own, including in the bedroom. For generations, we were denied access to our bodies and the pleasure associated with them, so naturally, prioritizing our pleasure seems foreign. We have become so accustome
Black Love •

Books to Help Black Women Reclaim and Explore Their Sexuality

September is here, and that means goodbye summer and hello Sexual Health Awareness Month. set aside September as the month we observe sexual health with the goal to dismantle taboos and create conversations around pleasurable and safe sexual experiences. Sex and sexuality is still pretty taboo and misunderstood, especially when it comes to Black female sexuality. Women aren’t taught what it means to be sexual. particularly have been hardwired by civil rights, slavery and religion to not center t
Essence •

We Need To Talk About The Troubling 'Designer Vagina' Trend

If you could get surgery to rid you of your camel toe, would you? “Designer vaginas” are the latest trend doing exactly that. Labiaplasty is a controversial cosmetic surgery that has seen an increase due to new fashion trends. It involves shortening the labia–inner lips of the vagina–by removing excess tissue. Labiaplasties have increased 53% from 2013 to 2018 in the U.S., according to the American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery. And the reason so many women are choosing to cosmetically r
Essence •

What Should A Vagina Smell Like?

Did you know that “80 percent of women probably need assistance when it comes to female hygiene”? No this isn’t a new statistic from the CDC or World Health Organization. Instead, this information is from actor turned rapper turned talk show host Nick Cannon. He made these comments while appearing on Angela Yee’s Lip Service podcast in June. According to to him, “80 percent of women probably need assistance when it comes to female hygiene. There’s this magnificent 20 percent that have no smell.”
MadameNoire •

DEAR ASHLEY: My 12-Year-Old Is Into Porn, What Should I do?

I recently discovered that my 12-year-old son watches porn. I check my children’s tablets from time to time and when I checked the other day, I found porn sites in his browser history. As I mentioned—he’s 12. At first, it kind of freaked me out. He’s just a boy. But then I realized: oh yeah, he’s just a boy. I was trying to keep that childhood innocence going as long as I could, but I guess that’s out the window now. Any suggestions on how to approach this? I don’t plan to punish him, but I want

How Mental Health Can Impact Your Sex Life

Mental health conditions are far more common than you think. According to statistics:
• of all lifetime mental illness begins by age 14, and 75% by age 24 Many factors contribute to mental health problems, biological factors, such as genes or brain chemistry, life experiences, such as trauma or abuse, and/or family history of mental health problems. Mental health can also affect your sex life. We often think of sex as something our bodies do, but our brain is our largest sex organ. It’s importan

7 Penis Symptoms to Get Checked

Penis-owners should have regular check-ups, too! Vaginas aren’t the only reproductive organ that needs check-ups. Penis owners should get regular checkups as well. The penis is a complex organ comprised of specialized nerves, muscles, vessels, and tissues that can develop a number of disorders and diseases that can cause issues. Here are seven seemingly common health conditions that could be cause for concern. If you experience anything on this list, you should talk to your doctor ASAP.

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Power of the Pelvic Floor

Easy tips to keep your pelvic floor healthy and happy!

Is the key to stronger orgasms really in strengthening your pelvic floor? As simple as it may seem, the answer is yes. Pelvic floor exercises help women relax their pelvic muscles during intercourse, making sex more pleasurable.

One of the most common ways to engage your pelvic floor is through the practice of Kegels. Kegels, a popular technique of tightening the pelvic floor muscles, can be done almost anytime, including during sex, which
Black Love •

Everything You Need to Know About the Rose Toy

The Rose Toy — is it Worth the Hype?

Every few years pop culture sets the trend for the “must have” sex toy. In the ‘90s, it was the highly coveted rabbit vibrator after it’s cameo appearance on Sex And The City, which led to it selling out in stores. In the TikTok era, it’s the rose bud suction toy, which has been omnipresent on the video sharing app for the better part of a year now — the hashtags #RoseToy and #RoseToyReview have 45.9 million views and 13.1 million views respectively — and de
MadameNoire •

Dear Ashley, Is It OK To Let My Son Have Sex At Home?

Dear Ashley, a weekly sex column in which Sex Expert Ashley Cobb answers your most intimate questions. Nothing is off-limits! Have a sex question, Ashley, “Your Favorite Friend In Filth,” has an answer. For questions on sex, email Ashley at ashley@sexwithashley.com

I need advice on whether or not to let my son bring his girlfriend home to spend the night. Do I let them have sex in my house? Is there an age when it seems appropriate? His girlfriend is a nice girl. Her parents and I have been fri
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