Ashley Cobb

 I am a sex writer, that brings the conversation of women's pleasure to the forefront. I share my wisdom and opinions about all things sex through my writing. 

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Black Women Are Reclaiming Kink—and Power

When you hear the word kink, what pops into your head? If you said Fifty Shades of Grey, then, baby, this article is for you.

Kink is SO much more than the whips and chains we’ve been spoon-fed by mainstream media. Sure, that might be part of the fun, but kink is really about freedom. Exploration. Liberation. It’s about stepping outside of the “vanilla” box and daring to ask yourself: What actually turns me on?

Kink is not the same as a fetish. A fetish usually centers on a specific object or...
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Thriving Through Service: How HIV Gave Kennedi Lowman Her Purpose [Exclusive]

Kennedi Lowman was 29 and thriving in her career as a medical lab scientist at a hospital in Atlanta when her life took an unexpected turn. The call came after she donated blood—a voicemail from the American Red Cross urging her to return the message right away. “In my mind, I’m like, what is wrong with me?” she remembered. As someone who worked in healthcare, she knew exactly what that kind of urgency meant. What she didn’t expect was that the call would reveal she was HIV-positive.Looking back...
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Get Naked And Get Free: The Liberating Power Of Nudism - AFROPUNK

Welcome to Gossip & ‘Gasms, the sex column where we talk about it all—the good, the bad, and the mind-blowingly orgasmic. I’m Ashley Cobb, your resident sexpert, storyteller, and homegirl who will overshare so you don’t have to. Think of this as your group chat’s spicy cousin—the one who keeps it real, spills the juiciest stories (including my own), and always drops some game along the way.

We’re diving into sex, love, and pleasure from a Black woman’s perspective—unfiltered, unapologetic, and...
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The Rise of Sex-Positive Getaways

Vacations are usually about sipping cocktails by the pool or exploring new cities, but there’s a growing trend centered around reconnecting with one’s sexual self. Increasingly, travelers are seeking getaways that prioritize sexual well-being, offering opportunities to embrace and enhance their sensuality.

During the pandemic, Cult Beauty reported an 850% surge in searches for "sexual wellness" on their site. At the same time, a study from The Kinsey Institute revealed that while sex declined d...
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Gossip & 'Gasms: How To Have Your Hottest Hot Girl Summer Yet - AFROPUNK

Welcome to Gossip & ‘Gasms, the sex column where we talk about it all—the good, the bad, and the mind-blowingly orgasmic. I’m Ashley Cobb, your resident sexpert, storyteller, and homegirl who will overshare so you don’t have to. Think of this as your group chat’s spicy cousin—the one who keeps it real, spills the juiciest stories (including my own), and always drops some game along the way.

We’re diving into sex, love, and pleasure from a Black woman’s perspective—unfiltered, unapologetic, and...
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Gossip & 'Gasms: “O” Yes, She Did: The Orgasm Education You Never Got—But Always Deserved - AFROPUNK

Welcome to Gossip & ‘Gasms, the sex column where we talk about it all—the good, the bad, and the mind-blowingly orgasmic. I’m Ashley Cobb, your resident sexpert, storyteller, and homegirl who will overshare so you don’t have to. Think of this as your group chat’s spicy cousin—the one who keeps it real, spills the juiciest stories (including my own ), and always drops some game along the way.

We’re diving into sex, love, and pleasure from a Black woman’s perspective—unfiltered, unapologetic, and...
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I’m ‘HIV Possible’ Too —Why Tamar Braxton’s Decision To Take PrEP Matters for Black Women’s Health [Op-Ed]

Tamar Braxton, the iconic R&B singer, songwriter, and reality TV star, has always been known for her transparency, and her latest Instagram Live video is no different. In a candid and heartfelt conversation with her followers, Tamar opens up about her decision to take anti-HIV PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) medication. She shares that this is part of her ongoing commitment to prioritizing her health while navigating the dating world in Atlanta. Recently separated from her ex, Jeremy Robinson, T...
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I am an Ethically Non-Monamgous Black Woman-Yes, We Do Exist! - AFROPUNK

It took me forty years to truly step into my truth—I’m ethical non-monogamous (ENM). Yes, I said it. I know, I know, it feels like everyone and their mama’s hopping on the bandwagon, but this is me. I’m not just following a trend. In fact, unlike Omarion—who recently sat down with Sherri Shepherd to discuss everything from celibacy to his thoughts on monogamy—I’m not doing this because “the women outnumber the men,” as he put it.

And while I can appreciate his honesty, let’s be clear: ethical n...
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DEAR ASHLEY: What Should I Do If My Partner Wants Anal — And I Do Not? Is There A Backdoor Plan B?

Dear Ashley, a sex advice column in which Sex Expert Ashley Cobb answers your most intimate questions. Nothing is off-limits!  Have a sex question, Ashley, “Your Favorite Friend In Filth,” has an answer. For questions on sex, email Ashley at ashley@sexwithashley.com
 
My partner loves anal, but I do not. I have a hard limit on penetration size, and we’ve never actually tried anal sex. If we never did, I’d be completely fine with that, but I want to see if there’s a way to meet his desires withou...
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Sexologist Tyomi Morgan Is Shaking Up The Dating Game With The Poly Matchmaking Agency [Exclusive]

Move over Patti Stanger—there’s a new matchmaker in town, and her name is Tyomi Morgan. Tyomi launched the Poly Matchmaking Agency in Atlanta on Feb. 25, offering exactly what the name suggests: a matchmaking service for those who identify as polyamorous.

Polyamory is a relationship style where individuals have more than one romantic or sexual partner at the same time, with the consent of all parties involved. It’s a form of ethical non-monogamy that emphasizes open, honest communication and p...